December 19, 2025

I Feel Like I Can Breathe Again

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December 19, 2025

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Pregnancy, Parenting, and Adoption Services

As I reflect on my work as a social worker in the Pregnancy, Parenting, and Adoption Services program, I am continually drawn back to one powerful moment—the moment when you can physically see the weight lift from a client’s shoulders. Their posture softens, they take a deeper breath than they have in days, and a small but genuine smile appears, often for the first time in a long while. It is in that moment that hope becomes visible.


Women who seek pregnancy-related support often arrive feeling overwhelmed, frightened, confused, and profoundly alone as they try to navigate an unexpected and deeply personal journey. Many are carrying not only the uncertainty of their circumstances but also the emotional burden of believing they must face it all by themselves.


When they sit down with one of our social workers—someone who offers unconditional compassion, nonjudgmental guidance, and clear information about the options ahead—something shifts. The situation begins to feel more manageable. They start to feel empowered again, understanding that the path forward is theirs to shape.

What often makes the greatest difference is the realization that they no longer have to walk this path alone. As they come to trust that we will be beside them through every step, offering support, resources, and a steady presence, their fear gives way to relief. That is when they offer that first, unguarded smile and say, “I feel like I can breathe again.”


In that moment, they understand that whatever decision they ultimately make—whether to parent or to make an adoption plan—it will be respected, supported, and grounded in what feels right for them and their baby. They have hope again and the support needed to accomplish their goals. These are the moments that I cherish, the moments that make a lasting impression for me and for the women I have the privilege to work with. 


And they know they will not face it alone.


Kris Haycraft, Director of Pregnancy, Parenting, and Adoption Services

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